1) MODEL IT. Step up and serve. Let them see you serving in your life. Find time in your busy schedule to serve your family, neighbors and church. Students will see this habit in your own life and model it.
2) Look for TEACHABLE moments. When you’re in the car or at the store listen for opportunities to share about what it means to serve. Or better yet invite them to join you in an act of service.
3) Allow them to LEAD. Give them chances to serve and not have to take second chair. When you give them the chance to lead they are learning so much about themselves and what they can and can't do.
4) Be ready when the FAIL. Part of learning to lead and serve is doing it your own way. It might look different than how we would do it. With this sometimes comes failure. We learned the task, the job, the whatever, by doing it our own way then asking questions and trying again. Students need to learn this too.
5) ENCOURAGE them when they do something right. We all know it's true that we hear the critique much louder than the praise. So, give a lot of affirmation to your kids when they make the choice to serve and lead.
Teaching students the importance of serving and leading is one of our core values of a youth ministry. If we can all model serving, look for teachable moments, allow them to lead, have patience when they fail and give encouragement when they make the right choice I believe we will be on our way to developing healthier servants of Jesus.