What I hope to pass on are some ideas to help this not be a tension in your life and family.
My first 10 years of being a youth pastor I was single. During these years I had the freedom to set my own personal schedule. That meant spending many evenings out at different school events, youth group meetings, and meeting with students and parents. For the past 14 years I have been married and have children. This means I have had to make a conscious shift in my priorities. Here are some practical ways that helped me in this shift:
1) I had to learn to say no. I could no longer go to every event. Saying no was a new discipline. I learned to protect my evenings and time at home.
2) I raised up other leaders. We cannot be - nor should we be - the only adult in the lives of students. Equipping other leaders, casting the vision,and raising the expectation for them helped me distribute the load of getting to all the students’ events.
3) You have to decide that family is more important than ministry. With this decision you need to make sure everyone you report to supports this. If they don't, you might consider if it is the right place for you to serve.
4) Manage your calendar. Don't let it manage you. There are definitely busy seasons when you might be out on weekends or weeknights, but if you are managing your time well, you will not be caught off guard by too many nights away from your family.
These are four things we can do to help protect our time with our family. One last thought. Just because you are home does not mean you can ignore your family by working from home or watching TV or playing video games. The reason we believe in the value of being home is to actuallyspend time with our family. Be present. Talk with your kids. Cook dinner. Play a game. Watch a movie with your wife after the kids have all gone to bed. Be present.